Chaos, Control & the Call to Surrender: Choosing Peace with Angela Fernandez

In this episode, I'm joined by Angela Fernandez, who shares her turbulent childhood, toxic relationships, low self-worth, coping with alcohol and drugs, and even time in jail.  Through plant medicine, therapy, counselling, and a spiritual awakening, she gradually discovered her gifts as a healer and guide. 

This is not a story of overnight change, but of steady, imperfect steps toward self-trust and a different way of living.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old cycles or unsure how to move toward something gentler, Angela’s story offers company and perspective for the journey.

Key Takeaways

• Trauma often wires us to believe chaos = love; healing means rewriting those stories.
• Addiction, toxic relationships, and even illness can become doorways into deeper transformation.
• Awareness is the foundation of healing — you can’t shift what you’re unwilling to see .
• Plant medicine and spirituality played a role in Angela’s awakening, but the real work came from choosing self-trust and courage.
• True power isn’t in “resilience” alone but in allowing peace, softness, and flow.

About:  Angela Fernandez, also known as The Spiritual Rebel, is a guide and coach who supports people in exploring self-trust, healing old patterns, and reconnecting with their own sense of wholeness.

She draws from lived experiences — alongside her spiritual studies and intuitive work — to walk with others on their own healing journeys. Angela’s approach is both practical and reflective, encouraging people to meet themselves honestly and with compassion.

Connect at: TikTok, Instagram, Website

Chapters

• 0:00 Introducton
• 1:43 Chaotic childhood and early lessons about love & survival
• 8:16 Childhood illness, eczema, and the first coping mechanisms
• 14:43 College years, party lifestyle, and toxic relationships
• 21:46 DUIs, jail time, and hitting rock bottom
• 31:01 Strength in adversity & struggles of balancing life & love
• 38:19 The relationship that changed it all - recognizing abuse
• 50:06 Finally confiding in her mom about abuse
• 55:09 The body speaks: rashes, hives, and more unhealthy coping methods
• 59:27 Spiritual awakening & plant medicine journeys
• 1:02:51 More toxic relationships - still learning lessons
• 1:06:49 The massive transformation happens
• 1:09:54 Meeting Sekhmet & claiming her spiritual mission
• 1:18:33 Finally finding peace & self-love
• 1:22:38 Practical healing tool: awareness & self-connection
• 1:27:00 Final words: embracing being human